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When I'm not being Merry Raymond of Patch of Puddles, I'm writing as MerrilyMe. Unless I'm selling toys. Or parenting.

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Creative: Tired.

November 13, 2014 by Merry 1 Comment

The end of the day.

Shouting stops, taxi service ends, the meals are eaten and the quiet purr of the dishwasher, punctuated by occasional sloshes, is the only noise left. Downstairs, the detritus of the day is strewn across the corridor, the kitchen perfunctorily cleaned, the door locked and the car remains a crumb filled carcass of its former self, packed to the gills with forgotten bags, shoes kicked off by tired feet and coats that will be hunted for frantically come morning. The lights are off, or glow dimly in the room where one of four bulbs still work and the time to replace them, or perhaps the inclination, has not yet occurred. The carpet – so recently vacuumed – carries the marks and mess of an ordinary family day; AstroTurf pellets sprinkled out of socks and trainers, a half eaten biscuit trodden in and not removed, packaging ripped from a much desired purchase and dropped where they stood.

Clattering, bickering, tired and dragging the bags, folders and armfuls of kit and coats that have become essential for their day, the kids have bundled themselves upstairs, bathroom door banging, tap left running (it needs replacing but when to find the time?) laundry discarded on the floor where tomorrow the wailing will commence as incomprehensibly it is too crumpled to wear again without the torture of using the iron. The lights flick off, the ‘one last drink’ is drunk and the youngest trails back upstairs to try again to find some way to sleep.

Lying down in the dark might help.

And peace descends. The living room softly lit enough to hide the homework strewn on the desk that in a Pinterest world would lightly tell the story of the woman who worked there, the sofa hastily buffeted and shaken, protective cloth tucked in, to give a semblance of  serenity. And the toys are kicked under the table with a mental promise to do messy play tomorrow and spend less time on phone and screen, to do the things that find the joy and bring the smiles and make the moment count before childhood is all sucked up in rush and growl and fleeting chat as kid and gym kit jump from car to club.

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And suddenly… silence. Too tired to talk, parents slump on Chesterfield sofa, propped up by late night coffee cupped in hands to tired to touch and stroke, explore or love. Slump is what they do, shoulder to shoulder, a rueful look at each other, wondering where the days of evenings of conversation, passion, creativity went? When there was still energy at half past nine to make and do, invent, play. How did the sofa, silence, book in hand, blanket made in freer times tucked around the knees and companionable friendship become an fleeting evening joy too good to miss? When did a few rows of knitting become a job well done, a worthy payment for a day fraught with other peoples’ needs? When did sofa, restful, soft, moulding to their backs, become a more inviting embrace than a lovers tumble?

They are tired. So very tired. And sleep, which ought to help, only seems to rob them of the time to rest.

Disclosure: this post is in collaboration with the company mentioned within the post.

Filed Under: Creative Tagged With: depression, hurry, modern life, parenting, sofa, time, tired

The Gallery – Talent.

October 22, 2014 by Merry 6 Comments

Talent.

Even in the playground in a Sunday, it's still all

They say it is everything. Some people have it. Some people don’t.

I watch people who don’t have talent all the time. I watch people who have some talent all the time.

I watch kids who sparkle. I watch kids who just ‘have it’.

I watch kids who learn fast and kids who learn slow.

I watch kids who kick the beam and I watch kids who fall off it 50 times and still keep going.

I watch the ones who are all mouth and I watch ones who were written off but never gave up.

There is more to talent than just having ‘it’.

There is more to talent than sparkle and fizz and stretchy limbs or the best voice or the cleverest brain.

***

She’s nine years old.

She has some talent. She’s pretty good, in a ‘will never be in the olympics’ kind of way.

I love to watch her.

I love her strength, her 6 pack, her neat limbs and her dainty dancing. I love that she never smiles because her brain is focused on being the best that she can be.

4 days a week she finishes school at 3.30pm and by 4.30pm she is at gym, ready for 4 hours of press ups, leg lifts, running, stretching and working moves over and over again.

She gets home and uses our living room as a gym for another hour. Every trip to the park is a chance to practise.

She never moans.

She never grumbles.

She never asks not to go tonight.

It’s not the talent that impresses me. It’s the dedication, the determination.

The relentless, mature, single-minded drive.

Its not the talent that inspires me. It’s not what I love most.

She embodies one phrase for me, a phrase I think should be drilled into the brain of every kid.

“Hard work beats talent, when talent doesn’t work hard.”

 Written for The Gallery – Talent.

 

Filed Under: Creative Tagged With: gymnastics, talent, the gallery

The Gallery – Eyes

October 8, 2014 by Merry 9 Comments

“She has beautiful eyes,” they said – and they meant it kindly.
Drawing attention away from the gaping hole they saw in her face.
The one I didn’t see, so consumed was I by her beauty.

“It will be okay,” they said – and they meant it truly,
Knowing, as I didn’t then, that it was but a small thing,
that marked her face while I saw only the girl in her eyes.

Reflected back at me, just a girl, with no idea
How to bring up a girl, facing challenge ahead of her
And only her eyes to see her through.

teen girl's eye

They fixed her face, as they said they would,
And when I found her all alone but awake in the baby ward,
Face changed…
It was the eyes I knew, straight and true.

She grew.
She looked out at the world, fearless, brave
And full of challenge, optimism, change.

Those baby eyes, the toddler eyes, the ones that swore
She would always be small, always my little girl.
And I said “You won’t. But that’s okay.”

Eyes that dance, eyes that tumble, eyes that sparkle but rarely cry,
Except tripped up by some unexpected joy.
Eyes that were – and are – my baby.

She’s almost grown. And now, these days, as she fusses and frets
About how she looks in a photo, and if a hoodie is smart enough
Or whether to wear make up, just this once,
I look at her – at all of her – and hardly knowing where to start, I say…

“You have beautiful eyes.”

This post is for The Gallery and is also in support of Sightsavers. You can follow Winesi from Malawi as he has his cataracts removed on my other blog.

Filed Under: Creative Tagged With: beauty, cleft lip, eyes, looks, sightsavers, teenagers, the gallery

The Gallery – Sky.

September 12, 2014 by Merry 1 Comment

Kestor

And when my heart has ceased to beat,
And atoms loose and seek to meet
You up above where dreams and tears
Have mingled, crowded, waited years
To be together, rest and be
As one again before we flee.
Over hill and under cloud,
Through the rain, among the flowers,
Sweep through grass and tumble child
In wind and weather, fierce and wild.

And then at last, when all is gone,
And only upward calls us on,
The threatened storm thunders past,
Calling us to come at last.
Among the blue, with fading cry,
The solace of the lasting sky.

 

***

For The Gallery

 

 

 

Filed Under: Creative Tagged With: dartmoor, Grief, loss, photo, poem, Sky, the gallery

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